Q&A Forum - March 2009 (Best of Elise)
Q. I just completed “The FemDom Experience”. The book is tremendous. As much as I enjoyed your first book, “Female Domination”, it is my opinion that you exceeded yourself with “The FemDom Experience”.
The middle section about dating, seeking a FemDom partner and building a successful female domination marriage will benefit many people for generations. Your advice and observations are always thoughtful and perceptive. I like how you use examples of real people to demonstrate concepts and to support your views.
I am sixty-eight and I wish this book had existed when I was a young man. Nonetheless, I really enjoyed reading the first and third sections of your book because most of my real life FemDom experiences have been with Professionals and groups. I was active in the New York scene and it was like a trip down memory lane reading about some of the professional Dom experiences. I remembered some of those establishments like Ava Taurel, Leather Ladies, and Westside Dungeon. I also remember a place called Village Fantasies in Greenwich Village. If I knew you were going to write about the good old days in New York City I would have contacted you and shared some of my experiences.
My favorite chapter in your book was about the Red Queen Society. I remember hearing about that group in the early days of TES (The Eulenspiegel Society). I heard good and bad about the Red Queen. They no longer existed when I came on the scene but some of the old timers said they were elitists and non-inclusive. TES was known for being inclusive. Your book is the first inside look at the Red Queen I have seen anywhere. I totally forgot about them until I read your book.
It is rather sad how groups come and go. I think the nature of the lifestyle lends itself to the inevitability of the short existences of these groups. Your book is an accolade to some of the older groups that are no longer in existence like the Red Queen and the Orb Scepter. Your book should also help some of the newer groups like ClubFEM. They’ve been around for years and they seem to be growing. Your book will let people know that they are out there and that’s a good thing.
Thank you again for your book and your overall contribution to promoting the female domination lifestyle.
A. It was mentioned to me that I should make “The FemDom Experience” into three separate books, one devoted to the Pro Dom experience, one to the Relationship experience, and one to the Group experience. I actually considered this but in the end I decided that the reader could benefit if these three areas were combined within the same book.
I hate to pigeon-hole experiences because each person is unique. However, a rather common progression in the FemDom lifestyle is for a male to go from the Pro Dom experience to the relationship experience and from there a FemDom couple may desire to seek out a group in order to meet like-minded people for support, education and validation of their own lifestyle. That is why I thought it important to combine these sections within one book.
Not only that, the overall principle I was trying to convey is that it takes action for the FemDom fantasy to become a reality in a person’s life. Female domination is merely a fantasy to many males and I wanted to show that what is one man’s fantasy is another man’s reality. But it does not happen by chance. And in order for it to become a reality, a man with submissive desires must realize what genuine FemDom is all about. It must be a practical application in one’s life and not some unattainable, unrealistic fantasy.
Women are embracing the Female domination experience and women will embrace the female domination experience but only if the male’s focus is on the woman’s needs. Women will not be attracted to a lifestyle that is based on a man’s fantasy. The FemDom experience will become a reality when a man shows the woman the benefits. I stress this in the introduction of my book and I close my book by reiterating this vital principle.
I agree that the middle section of my book is the “meat” of the book, along with the Introduction and the final chapter. However, the meat needs the outer sections to present a complete picture of the FemDom experience. Lets be honest, the Pro Dom experience is the initial experience for many males with submissive desires. And the Group experience is the only way some people can openly express their natures due to the home constraints of families and other home based obligations.
I am glad to hear you enjoyed reading about past FemDom experiences, such as the Red Queen Society and some Pro Doms of days gone by. I thought it important to cover a little history and to honor those pioneers who really stepped out there and dared to swim against the current of a closed minded society when it came to alternative lifestyles. I shared in my chapter on the Dominatrix Experience about the persecution that Monique Von Cleef faced as her house was raided and she was exposed in the press and she had to go through a media circus of a trial. Yet this woman never wavered and she was ultimately vindicated by the US Supreme Court.
People need to know that the freedoms we share today came at the expense of those who were willing to sacrifice for their beliefs. And some are still being persecuted today in many parts of the world (and still in some places within the US). We need to be thankful for the freedoms we do have and we need to be mindful that those freedoms can always be taken away if we are not willing to fight for those freedoms. When you read about some of these people and some of those earlier groups in the light of today’s more open society, you marvel at how backwards and oppressive society was and you are thankful for how far society has come. We have a long ways to go but practicing Female Domination in 2006 is a lot easier than it was in 1964. I hope my book will be a tribute to some of those FemDom pioneers. That is why I dedicated the book to them. Thanks for the nice comments.
Q. Hi Elise, I was recently introduced to the whole FemDom scene by my boyfriend. I was a bit hesitant at first but he showed me your web site and I felt much more comfortable about it once I understood it all. Thanks Elise!
He is more experienced with female domination and had been dominated in the past. We recently had my first D&S session. I was a little nervous but I was dressed in a fetish outfit and I have to say it helped me feel more dominant. I am just a little confused because he was so submissive from the start yet I never saw the look that has been described as subspace. Is it possible he was there from the start? He never resisted any of my commands. How can I tell if he is in subspace or at least when I am really pushing his buttons?
I also tried forced feminization on him, making him do some housework while wearing lingerie. He complied but he had an erection the whole time. Afterward he told me that he would do whatever I enjoy but his number one fantasy is to be naked around a clothed female as opposed to wearing lingerie. I don't completely understand the clothed female naked male fantasy and part of me is wondering since he had an erection when I feminized him if maybe he is just trying to test my dominance by seeing if he can control some of the things we do? Any insight you could give would be greatly appreciated! Thanks so much.
A. I am pleased to hear that my site helped you to overcome your inhibitions but you should be proud of yourself for having the courage to explore this lifestyle with your husband. It is a journey and it is only natural for you to have some questions.
A woman cannot always discern whether her submissive has entered into subspace merely by looking at his facial expressions. Subspace is a condition of the mind, and it will not be the same for each person. It is a “space”, a mental compartment, or what I like to call the submissive zone. He very well may have gone into that “zone” the minute he saw you in your fetish outfit. Or, perhaps he went into the “zone” during your session with him but you could not discern it. And it is possible that he never achieved subspace because you are both new to this and he was a little nervous or perhaps the D&S activities did not touch his submissive triggers to the place where he was transported to subspace.
It may take you months or years of FemDom exploration with your husband before you discover those mental triggers. They may be deep within his psyche. That is why communication is important but keep in mind that he may not even know what those triggers are, or if he does know he may not be able to reliably communicate them to you. This lifestyle is all about exploration and experimentation. Have fun with it, keep at it, and eventually you will find those triggers.
He may have confessed a potential trigger to you when he mentioned how he wants to be naked while you are clothed. When a man mentions something like this, don’t discard it. I am not saying you have to do it his way but don’t be afraid to explore certain activities with him. If you prefer to feminize him, do it both ways and see how it goes. Have him naked one time as he does his chores, then the next time feminize him. If he had an erection while he was feminized, you definitely touched something within him. Maybe it was just the fact that you were making him do housework and he was aroused by his subservient position and being feminized has nothing to do with it. Or maybe you struck a chord within him that he does not want to admit to himself. Maybe a part of him likes that you emasculated him like that.
I know I am giving you a lot of “maybes” but that is why you need to explore and experiment. You both are unique so find that which you enjoy and that which stimulates his submission at the same time. If you are at this long enough, you will hit your stride and your dominant energy will feed off of his submission energy, and vice versa. Just be mindful that you are in charge and don’t allow him to top you from below. This lifestyle is about your pleasure. You want to communicate with him and you want to learn about his submissive nature but never surrender the dominant role. It sounds like you are off to a great start. Best wishes!
Q. I ordered your book and had my fingers crossed that there would be something in there for those of us interested in cuckolding. Image my pleasant surprise to see that you had a chapter in your new book dedicated to “The Cuckolding Experience”.
I thought the most profound statement in your book was when you said, “While some women may have a difficult time embracing such D&S practices as bondage, whips, fetish outfits, and BDSM activities, these same women might not be so reluctant to agree to a marriage where the husband promises to be faithful and monogamous while at the same time giving their blessing for the wife to date other men.”
For some reason those words really sunk in and I can see where more and more women will want a cuckoldry marriage. If only I could be married to a woman like Barbara. Yalsa! Thank you.
A. Cuckolding is one of those “damned if you do”, “damned if you don’t” topics. When I write about it, some people who are primarily focused on monogamous FemDom relationships might become uncomfortable because they may think that I am pushing them toward a lifestyle that goes against their morals. But if I don’t write about it, I am ignoring a growing trend within the FemDom lifestyle, not to mention a growing trend in the bigger picture of societal evolution. Cuckolding is both a popular male fantasy and an ever-increasing reality within FemDom marriages. How can you honestly write a book about the overall FemDom experience and omit this topic? I suppose you could, and I debated about leaving it out, but since I discussed it in my first book and I write about it on my site, I thought it would be hypocritical to ignore it as if it doesn’t exist. What I try to do is bring a balanced approach to this controversial FemDom activity.
You accurately quoted me from my book and I am glad to hear that those words made sense to you and had a positive effect on you. However, I think that those words need to be within the proper context by adding what I said immediately following those sentences;
“Most women who marry do so with the authentic intention of embracing the monogamous relationship. Rarely will the concept of an open marriage appeal to the female nature. Women like Barbara are the exceptions to the rule. However, once the male opens that door by confessing that he is excited by the concept of a one-way open marriage where only the woman has the right to exercise her sexual options for variety, he’d better be willing to accept the consequences should his wife agree to take him up on it. That door is not so easily closed once those thoughts are planted within the female mind.”
Like I said, I always try to bring balance and a reality based examination of the FemDom practice of cuckolding. I closed the chapter on "The Cuckolding Experience” with the following;
“… the number of couples that are embracing the cuckolding experience has increased significantly and exponentially over the past decade. This trend merits additional observation and examination as society continues to evolve.”
That is why I felt it was important to include cuckolding in this book. It is a trend and a growing practice that reflects female empowerment.
The male need for Loving Female Authority can come forth in a plethora of desires and sooner or later, a FemDom activity will come along that you do not approve of. That is why I like to use the cafeteria analogy when describing this lifestyle. Take from that which appeals to you and leave that which does not appeal to you.
Bringing it back to this lifestyle, embrace that which you enjoy and that which you want to explore. And pay no mind to that which does not appeal to you or is incompatible with your personal expression of the FemDom lifestyle. If you are interested in the practice of cuckolding or curious about the cuckolding lifestyle, you will probably enjoy reading chapters seven, sixteen and seventeen of my book. However, if you are not interested in cuckolding, you can be comforted in the knowledge that the majority of the book deals with the monogamous FemDom experience.
Not everyone will approve of Barbara’s marriage but give her credit for embracing a lifestyle that fits within the framework of her personal female supremacy belief system. Her husband went into their marriage with his eyes wide open. Say what you will about Barbara but you have to admire her openness and honesty with all the men in her life. She is a woman who is true to herself and her husband is indeed a fortunate man. Thanks for the feedback.
Q. Dear Elise - I am growing in my love of being dominated. My wife has "happened" to masturbate me twice lately in a humiliating fashion. Explicitly, rubbing my glands against herself or on the second occasion, slapping, ball-squeezing (a favorite of hers anyway), and scraping the inside of the tip of my penis with her fingernails. I felt wonderfully humiliated by the climax both times, and discovered a far greater "respect" for her after the event than I ever have felt before!
She seemed quite pleased with the ease of her achievement, as my balls had been aching for her for hours. I realize this is only a neophyte level of the kind of dominance that you recommend and practice regularly, but the pleasure I received from this was far more than I expected and I am staying high and hard for her since then. She seems to appreciate this new-found level of submission, which includes me doing more housework and dishwashing than before.
I am obviously at a very early stage of being trained by her, especially in the respect she receives outside the bedroom, something that has been sorely lacking over the years of our marriage. I am so excited to have this all happening after a thorough study of your website. Having my prostate milked is certainly becoming a highly intriguing possibility! I remain a grateful and now aroused admirer.
A. We all must begin somewhere and it sounds like your wife has succeeded in finding that which brings out your submission to her. We were talking about psychological triggers in a previous post and it sounds as if your wife has discovered a trigger within you.
I wonder, is it the physical aspects of what she does or the mental aspects? Maybe you become so submissive toward her and more eager to do chores for her because of the humiliation facet of your so-called masturbation sessions. It could be that your submission responds to the mental imagery that your wife has this much power over you and that she does not allow you an easy and pleasurable orgasm through traditional sexual activities. Instead, she humiliates you and she makes you suffer for her, as she trains you to equate her control and her power with your pleasure. And perhaps it is this dynamic that stimulates your submissive nature.
Regardless, it works and hopefully she can build upon this. Just make sure that you continue doing those dishes. Take care!
Q. Dear Elise, I am a female reader and I have a question. I have heard that a male’s backside is far more sensitive to pain right after he has experienced an orgasm. Is there any truth to this, and if so, do you know the reason for it?
Also, if this is the case, wouldn’t this be a perfect time to administer corporal punishment if you really wanted to get a message across? Thank you for a wonderful and informative site.
A. Yes, this is true but it isn’t a mystery. A lot of submissive males are turned on by the thought of being spanked, whipped and disciplined by a woman. I’ve talked about this at great length on my site and in my books so if you want to know why some men want to be whipped by a woman, I suggest that you read my Q&A section on “Discipline, Spanking and Corporal Punishment”.
Because the submissive is turned on by the thought of being whipped by a woman, he enters into a heightened sexual arousal when the woman begins to actually discipline him, especially if she starts out light to moderate. Unless he is a physical masochist, he probably will not enjoy severe discipline or severe punishment. But a lot of submissive men will become turned on when they receive a mild to moderate spanking or whipping at the hands of a female. The more aroused they become, the more they can endure because of the heightened sex drive combined with the submissive energy that is being released.
However, should the submissive male orgasm during the discipline session, he loses the sex drive and now he cannot endure the pain as much. The trance he may be under is broken and he now must face the discipline session in a post-orgasmic state of being. This will make the discipline less erotic and more painful.
To answer the second part of your question, Yes, there are women who will do exactly what you suggest if they want to punish their husbands for a certain infraction but they do not want him to enjoy it. If a man is really into being whipped and he goes into subspace easily from this FemDom activity, the Female Disciplinarian might decide that in order for the session to be a real punishment, she will require that he masturbate prior to the session, which will remove most if not all the erotic elements for him (although it might heighten the erotic elements for her if she becomes aroused at the thought that her submissive is suffering more than usual from her discipline).
Nevertheless, I believe if you want the D&S energy and the sexual passion to be present during a Discipline session, it is best if the man is in an aroused state. The longer he has been denied sexual release, the more discipline he can take, and the more discipline he can take, the more D&S energy can be exchanged during the session. But if your purpose is not to experience that passion, and your purpose is simply to punish him and you want it to be painful for him, in that case having him orgasm prior to the session would set the stage for a more severe punishment session. Thanks for the question and best wishes.
Q. Ms Sutton, I have yet to read your new book but I am a subscriber to “Predominant” and I enjoyed the excerpt from your new book featured in the Nov/Dec issue. Is the Boy Toy Club for real and how can my wife and I contact them?
A. I can assure you that the Boy-Toy Club is for real. I actually found out about this group back in 2003 while I was doing research for my first book. During the course of that interview, the husband, Gary, mentioned both their FemDom support group and the Boy-Toy Club. While I found their FemDom group to be interesting, it was very similar in nature to some of the other FemDom groups I mention in “The FemDom Experience”. However, the Boy-Toy Club was such a unique group that I decided that it warranted a closer look.
Denise and Gary were kind enough to give me the details of their experiences with the Boy-Toy Club (BTC), as well as putting me in contact with another couple that is active in the BTC. Then last year, while interviewing a different couple about a different FemDom group, I learned about the May/December Society (MDS). They in turn put me in touch with Natalie who hosts the MDS socials and after interviewing her, I knew I had to include the May/December Society in my book.
That decision almost made me cut the BTC from my book for the simple reason I did not want to have too much in there about the cuckolding lifestyle. I was devoting an entire chapter to cuckolding and I decided to add the MDS to my section on FemDom Groups. In addition, I included the cuckolding experience of Cathy and John in the chapter dedicated to CFNM groups. Therefore, I came very close to eliminating the chapter on the Boy-Toy Club. But in the end, it made the final cut. You have to admit, they get style points for uniqueness and creativity.
I asked Denise and Gary if they wanted me to include their e-mail address in the Resource List in the back of my book so people interested in the BTC could contact them. They decided against doing that but I can tell you that they reside in the southern part of Texas. If you are from there and still want to get in touch with them, send me an e-mail and I will forward it to them. My advice would be that you first join their FemDom group and become comfortable there before you approach them about the BTC. Take care!
Q. Dear Elise; I have read your site and love your work, although I don’t always agree with everything you say. I must admit your are one very intelligent, bright woman, and your husband should be thankful to be married to such a mind, it’s good that you stand up for your gender, and believe in your gender, but I am astonished that you keep forgetting that Loving Female authority is all about sexual attraction. Without sexual attraction women have no power over men, and this power is purely sexual. It’s the same power Eve had over Adam, and this power is about beauty, without the power of beauty and attraction there is no seduction and no submission of the male gender.
As far as the female leadership thing goes, well there have been very successful Queens in the past if you look at the history of countries like Spain (Queen Isabella), Russia(Catherine), Austria, France, Egypt but there were also very successful kings in the past.
The fact that girls outscore boys in the classroom doesn’t prove that they are intellectually superior. Einstein failed mathematics in school, does it prove that he was not a good mathematician?
I will admit that your average female student is intellectually superior to the average male, trust me I know the average male, a 12 year old can read the mind of an average male, but there are the few exceptions among men, some call these the supreme intellects, these were 99.9 % male, these are the people that just developed about everything we see and use in the world around us today. There are no women to compete against the supreme intellects in the fields of philosophy, science, art, music, chemistry, mechanics and engineering , but the works of intellection tends to solve only the problems of the things we see and nothing more.
Women’s hearts are fixed on earthly things like babies and family, while the hearts of true men are fixed on the infinite things. I have a weakness for beautiful dominating women, I just want to cherish, respect, serve, treat, praise, protect, adore, honor and submit to them. The love for women is the highest type of beauty, purity and love, however it remains a carnal love and man can conquer if only he will.
So my questions are:
What power do women have over men without sexual attraction? And isn’t it the carnal mind and a very primitive way of thinking to think that the one gender is in any way superior to the other gender?
A. Yes, it is archaic thinking that one gender is better than the other and if you would read my article “What is Female Domination and Female Superiority?” (which is the first link on my site) you would understand that it was the male gender who coined such terminology as “female domination” and “female supremacy” and “female superiority” in order to categorize their submissive and yes, sexual, desires. I use these terms purely because of the psychological impact that these words have on the male psyche. However, I prefer the term “loving female authority” because that captures the female mindset that a female led relationship is not about superiority but rather about a win/win relationship where both the woman and the man have their needs met.
With that as a foundation, it needs to be said that the word superior (better, greater, higher achiever) is an adequate word to use when analyzing statistical data about which gender is performing better in the classroom and in the business world. Einstein is not a good example because such a case is the exception. Most males who drop out of school do not become Albert Einstein or Bill Gates. Whether you agree with it or not, education leads to ‘superior’ employment and business opportunities, and the women who are ‘dominating’ in the classroom today will be ‘dominating’ in the business and political worlds tomorrow. But that is not just my conclusion, many scholars and futurists, both male and female, have come to the same conclusion that the future will be female.
This is the current course of societal evolution. That does not mean that women are of more worth than men, it simply is the result of a realignment of the societal roles of the sexes. Queens (as in past leaders of countries) were the result of birth and/or marriage. Today, women are rising to power through achievement, hard work, and proving themselves despite the many obstacles placed in their way by a patriarchal and prejudice male power structure. The rise of women to power does not mean males will become obsolete (although there has been some debate about this). There is no reason why males cannot thrive within a female dominated society.
Now to get to your question about the sexual power of women. If you have read my site for any length of time, you will know that I talk a lot about the sexual power of the female nature. I agree that it is the sexual power of the female that brings the male submissive nature to the forefront. That is why I encourage women not to shy away from their sexual power and to use it an asset. The sexual power of the female is a gift from Nature to the female and it brings balance, as the sexual power of the female overcomes the male ego. Female sexual power is very real and it is both sexual and spiritual in nature.
So why degrade or downplay that part of the female nature? Female sexual power in no way diminishes the intellectual achievements of women. When it comes to academic achievement, women excel not because of sexual power but through intellectual power. Women have many gifts and talents and studies show that women make better managers than men and women are better equipped at multitasking and that women have ‘greater’ communication skills (the word greater is a synonym of ‘superior’). None of these traits diminish from the other traits. Therefore, you cannot remove them or single them out but instead you must look at the female nature in her entirety to understand her and to appreciate her.
The same goes with the nurturing aspects of the female nature, I am sure many women would be offended with your comment that a woman’s heart is fixed on babies and family. A woman possesses the nature to nurture children and society has always recognized this biological fact. However, where the patriarchy failed is when it relegated women solely to this role. By doing so, the patriarchy voided the many, many, many other talents and characteristics of the female nature. As we are now witnessing, women can be great Mothers, superior students in college, and successful businesswomen at the same time. Men, on the other hand, are lucky if they can excel in one of these areas, let alone all three. I don’t want to bring up the word “superior" so I’ll let the reader choose their own word. Thanks for the question.
Q. Dear Elise, In a recent Q&A forum I saw your opinion on Matrilineal inheritance, and I immediately felt dejected. I see your point about the need for boys and girls to be treated equally, but until the old patriarchal system is left far behind, it would be nice if some of us (females) could get some extra help to pick ourselves up and move on ahead.
For one thing, I disagree that Mothers would see all their children as equal under a Matriarchal system. It's just basic nature for Mothers to form very strong bonds with their sons and want to see them get way ahead, because down to their basic instincts, this uplifting of males will help ensure a strong continuation of their line into the future. It's nature.
Just recently I asked my mother if she would consider leaving me a little more money than my brothers, seeing how they are far ahead and successful in their careers, and I'm still a struggling writer. She said she can't do that because it's the Law to divide equally. But I saw how emotionally she was attached to my brothers, especially the younger one, and did everything to make their lives easier and more comfortable, and she became like a Mother-Wife to them.
So until things really are "equal," (or maybe that's something that exists in a pink-fluff world), wouldn't it be a little more fair to give some females a slight boost somewhere ... financially or otherwise?
Anyway, I like you, Elise, and really respect your work, but sometimes I wonder if you live in an ivory tower and can't understand the struggles of women.
A. The ivy covered tower analogy has been used to describe my point of view on more than one occasion, as is the case with most intellectual thought when compared with people’s life experiences. The problem is that real world experiences vary from person to person. Therefore, someone can read an opinion and say “Amen, that rings so true” whereas someone else will read the exact same editorial or article and say “This person has no clue to what the real world is like.” It comes down to your belief system and your personal experiences.
I can assure you that I have never lived in an ivy tower and I base my opinions on my own life experiences and personal observations in combination with the wisdom I have gained from others. That does not make my opinion of any more worth than your opinion. I hope we all can stay open-minded enough to examine what we believe when we are confronted with different opinions that challenge our viewpoint.
I totally understand where you are coming from when it comes to the inheritance question. Women have been oppressed and it is still hard for women to gain equality, especially in societies where the patriarchy is still deeply entrenched. However, the good news is that ‘we’ve come a long ways, baby’ and women are breaking down those barriers and are blazing their own trail for future generations to follow, just like we are following the trails that were set by previous generations of women.
We are in a transition generation between the old, dying patriarchal system and a future female-led society. Many injustices still exist thus many women are hurt from laws, traditions and prejudices that favor males. However, it would be wrong for women to turn the tables to the place where males are discriminated against in the same manner that the patriarchy has discriminated against women. Granted, some women have been indoctrinated by old societal mindsets to the place where they hold to patriarchal traditions. That is probably the case with your mother. You need to realize the world she was raised in and try to not hold that against her. The great news is that you have been able to break that mindset in your own life and thus your daughters, if you have any, will not face the same degree of discrimination.
My response was to a broad question about whether an inheritance should go to daughters within a Matriarchy society. It goes without saying that there needs to be flexibility. If one child is irresponsible with money or one child is well off financially whereas the other children are not, parents might reevaluate how much they leave to each child. Nevertheless, on the whole the only equitable and just way for an inheritance to be distributed is equally among children, regardless of their gender. Gone are the days when only the first born son inherits the father’s assets. It’s time for women to run the family finances and to deal equitably and justly with the children. Sure, women may leave their sons an equal share of an inheritance but hopefully their sons will be married to women who likewise believe in loving female authority, thus their wives will control the finances. And the beat goes on. Take care.
Q. Dear Ms Sutton, thank you for your latest book. I wouldn’t say it broke any new ground from your other book but I really appreciate the way you reinforced the basics of a successful FemDom relationship. I needed to be reminded of why I introduced my wife to this lifestyle and how great our marriage has become. Your book covered old ground in a fresh new way and challenged me to get back to the basics of putting my wife’s needs ahead of my own. Some of what you wrote was a real wake-up call to me. I can do so much more for her and I can become so much more to her. The final chapter about a harmonious marriage has become my New Years resolution.
A. Thank you for those kind words. The final chapter is titled “The Harmonious Experience” and I wanted it to be the final thought for people after they read about all the various lifestyles and experiences. I was told by many couples what a warm feeling they got from reading the final chapter of my first book, “Female Domination”, and I wanted to close this book in a similar manner. I wanted to challenge couples to make this lifestyle a successful reality and I wanted to encourage people at the same time.
If nothing else, I hope the Introduction and the final chapter will be a loving reminder of those basic principles and techniques that will ensure a successful FemDom relationship based on Loving Female Authority.
Good luck with your New Years resolution and remember a resolution will only become a reality if you allow it to take priority in your life. Best wishes!
