A woman's dormant dominant nature and female power must be seduced and drawn to the forefront by a male's submissive nature. Once this hidden female power comes to the forefront, the woman will have no problem taking her natural position as the dominant female and the boss of her relationship.
Therefore, if you are a submissive male who is married or in a serious relationship with a woman, you need to search no further for your Dominatrix. She is right in front of you. The challenge for you is to draw out her dominant nature with your submissive nature. This is not always easy, as most women
have been programmed from the time they were born that they are to be in subjection to men. Society has mistaken the softness and the gentleness of women for weakness and submission. Likewise, society has mistaken the toughness and the macho ways of men for strength. Men are only stronger physically. Women are the gender that posses the real strength, which is Intellectually, Emotionally, Spiritually, and Sexually. Unfortunately most women do not realize this. The women that have unleashed their dominant female power have men begging to serve them. If you don't believe me, check out how many professional Dominatrix ads there currently are on the Internet.
There are many more men who realize that they are submissive than women who realize that they should be in charge and are dominant. Therefore, most submissive men will travel the ends of the earth and pay great amounts of money to be dominated by a woman. They know that it's their destiny. I am all for the professional Dominatrix as they are fulfilling a major need out there. However, the professional Dominatrix can never fulfill the submissive male totally, the way that an actual, intimate relationship can.
In order for you to draw out your wife's dominant nature, you must seduce it with your submission. Don't show your wife material about D&S or B&D and expect her to be enthusiastic about it. She will probably think that these activities are strange and she might even think that you are strange. However, if
you seduce her dominant nature and draw it out of her, once it starts to come to the forefront then you can introduce her to some D&S and B&D activities. So how do you seduce your wife's dominant nature with your submissive nature?
You begin by treating her like a Queen. You begin by serving her as if she was already the dominant woman of your dreams. Be humble and submissive around her. Don't argue with her, don't yell at her, and don't give her any back talk. Your purpose in your relationship is to serve her. What she says goes, so be quick to agree with her.
Another thing that you can do to seduce your wife's dominant nature is you can offer to give her foot and body massages. When she gets home from a hard day's work, don't sit and watch television and ignore her. A submissive exists to tend to his superior wife's needs. Go and kneel next to her, take off her
shoes, and rub her tired feet. As she relaxes in pleasure, work your massage up her legs and massage and lightly scratch her legs. Do this on a consistent basis. While you are doing this, tell her that you love and adore her. Tell her that you exist to serve her.
Eventually, you might take more liberty as you rub her feet. You might start to kiss and lick her feet. I wouldn't do this the first time, but if she responds positively to the massages, then keep adding to them. You might work your kissing and licking from her feet, up her legs, and then to her crotch. That's
right, get in the habit of orally servicing your wife. Kiss her body all over and make love to her with your mouth and tongue. Do not ever penetrate her with your penis, unless she requests it. Do not focus on your needs, but instead focus on her needs. Please her sexually as your Queen. Remember that she is superior to you. Don't you dare ever take any liberties, without her permission.
Eventually, you might want to buy a vibrator or a dildo and you can please her with it. She might be hesitant at first, so don't ask her if she wants you to use it on her. First, get her in a state of extreme arousal through kissing her, massaging her and orally pleasing her. Then produce her new toy and slowly and carefully use it on her. If she disapproves, she'll tell you and you must always respect her wishes.
The goal is to get both you and her in the habit of viewing sex as being for the woman's pleasure. It
will be for the man's pleasure only if the woman says so. Which brings up another way that you
can seduce her dominant nature. Whenever she give you permission to enter her or whenever she is giving you pleasure, always ask her permission before you climax. She will again probably be amazed that you are even asking, but eventually she will come to really like the idea that she controls your orgasms.
Another way to seduce your wife's dominant nature is to be very obedient when she asks you to do chores for her. First, begin by doing all of the chores that you already know that she would like you to do. Don't wait on her to ask before you take out the garbage, cut the lawn, wash the cars, or whatever else you are suppose to do. She will be amazed if you start to serve her by doing your chores willfully. The next step is to then ask her if you can help her with her chores. Ask her if you can do the dishes and help her clean the house. Tell her that you exist to serve her and that you will do whatever she asks of you.
Still another way to seduce your wife's dominant nature is to buy her little gifts, bring her flowers, and write poetry for her. Take her out to dinner or shopping. Perhaps you could even cook dinner for her and serve her dinner like a waiter. Another thing you can do is to prepare her a bubble bath, undress her, bathe her, then take her to the bedroom and orally service her.
You could buy her a leather skirt or a pair of leather pants and compliment her on how sexy she looks in leather and how submissive seeing her in leather makes you feel.
All of these "little" things will seduce her dominant nature and it will cause her to grow more dominant. Whenever she asks you why you are treating her so good or acting so submissive around her, tell her it's because you love her and because you have come to realize that women are superior beings, and as such they should be treated like Queens. Tell her that she is your Queen and that you exist to serve her. Now be careful here and don't over do it. Tell her your feelings about how you want to serve her, then leave it at that. She might ask you what has made you to feel this way, and if she does it presents you with a real opportunity.
Tell her that you've had submissive feelings toward her for sometime, but that you were afraid to express them before. Then tell her that you have been reading a lot on the Internet about female domination and how it has touched a chord within you. Again, let her know your feelings but don't over do it. Do not
bring up B&D at this time.
When do you bring up D&S and B&D? When she starts to respond positively to your submission and she starts to ask you more about Female Domination. Then you can begin to introduce her to this lifestyle. You could buy her an introductory book like "The Sexually Dominant Woman, a workbook for nervous beginners " by Lady Green. You could introduce her to female domination by showing her a non-pornographic web site like The WHAP web site or my web site. Encourage her to perform " The Psychoanalysis of the submissive male " from my web site on you. Do not read it first or it will take away from the experience. By her performing this analysis on you, it will cause you to open up and it will cause the two of you to bond even closer together. She will begin to understand you and why you desire to serve her.
From this point on, slowly introduce her to D&S and B&D. Buy her some fetish clothes, and maybe a leather paddle or a whip. Again, only move at her pace. If you sense that she is starting to become negative, then back off the D&S activities and re-focus on just serving her. Not every woman will react the same and not every woman will grow at the same pace. However, I believe that if you are persistent and consistent than your wife will eventually overcome her inhibitions and she will allow her dominant nature to freely flow out of her. Then she will totally seize the reigns of your relationship and she will fulfill her potential as the dominant woman that she was meant to be. Good Luck.